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The Bern Seminars – Page 181

It seems that Anacardium patients believe absolutely that they are no good, that they have no ability to perform what they are asked to do. There is a conflict there between their actual ability – which is very high – and their belief of what they can deliver, which is actually very low. The Anacardium person doubts their own capabilities to the extent that he will almost refuse to take a promotion, refuse to take the least responsibility, refuse to do the most elementary work in their profession because they have completely lost their self-confidence. The conflict can escalate and their feelings of inferiority increase, because the moment they lose their self-confidence, their ability to work well and efficiently, also goes down. This results in a vicious circle: they are reprimanded or criticized more and more, their work continues to sink even further, and then they become more and more insecure. There is a peculiarity with Anacardium: In this situation it would be natural for such a person to just leave their job and go away, instead the Anacardium sticks to the situation because they want to prove themselves. Despite this tremendous lack of self-confidence they will keep on in the situation. The same thing can happen in a marriage situation: A woman is put down by her husband, or the husband is put down by the woman, and they completely lose their self-confidence; they think that they are incapable of doing anything at all, and yet they stick out the situation with a peculiar obstinacy. Eventually they become terribly mixed-up about their lives and no longer know what to do to get out of the circle. This sort of conflict is eventually what will lead to a split personality in Anacardium; the personality splits and one part of the person says: “Go this way,” and the other part says: “Go that way.” In the books it says: “An angel sits on one side, the devil sits on the other, and then they both advise contradictory things.” You are not going to hear that ever with Anacardium. The idea here is that the patient is split and because of their situation, a part of them is saying: “Go away, leave this situations and another part is saying: “No, stick with this situation, prove yourself. “