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Classical Homeopathy for Anxiety and Jealousy – page 203

And then you feel that now this person has become yours. Once you feel that, Eros is gone, is finished, (audience giggles) I’m not sure – can you follow my thinking…? (laughter in the audience) Oh, I feel, more or less you understand…

In order to be happy I need to feel that the object of my desire eventually has become mine. Now: this process is a slow process. It happens within the relationship of two people. It seems or it appears that it is fulfilled in a relationship when we have the sexual encounter, one entering the other (in the sexual matter).

So, this whole process begins with a flirt, and then the erotic desire increases more and more, until you finally reach a peak, the fulfilment of the desire, which lies in the sexual act. This is what we feel as human beings. These are basic feelings everybody has.

Now, within this process, which lasts from a few months to a few years, the feelings of jealousy within this context are necessary and not pathological. During this period you feel that you want the other person to be exclusively yours. And therefore the least deviation from this idea makes you upset, gives you ill feelings, grief and whatever. So, the feelings of jealousy are a normal phenomenon within human relationships.

Those who do not feel jealous in this context have a problem. The problem is that their emotions have been hurt and have been damaged, have been numbed, silenced. You have become all brain and no heart. That is not good. It’s not a good balance, (silence in the audience)

Am I bringing you some problems? (audience giggles) I can see the eyes wondering: is he right? Is he wrong? What about me?