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right there immediately. and if the patient relapses one day they then take the remedy on the second day of the relapse. This line of thinking does not sound logical to me. What happens over the days and years when the remedy is not needed? Advocates of this technique say that if the remedy is not needed, it will not act. I don’t know about that, because if this remedy is very close to the person, for example, if it were a Mercury case, I don’t know how wise it would be to repeat Mercury every day for two or three months or years?

(A.): I have a question about the husband. He seems to be fright-ened by the changes in his wife, but you stopped the discussion. I thought that maybe you should have confronted him very softly, telling him that there is the possibility of a divorce, and maybe proposing that he let himself be treated.
(G.V.): I feel that this kind of interference is very dangerous, because I would be assuming certain things, not to mention that I would be imposing upon him the possibility of a treatment, the result of which I am unsure of. The decision to undergo treatment has to be his own, on his own volition. I don’t believe he will undergo treatment because of what I suspect are his fears around his marriage. I don’t think he’ll say: “I am dependent on this relationship and it seems to be breaking down.” What might help him is marriage counseling, someone with whom he can discuss his situation, someone who knows about these things and can help him deal with his marriage in a different way. If I had been the practitioner and he had been pressuring me to give supposi-tories for the leukorrhea, I would have confronted him with the question: “Do you want your wife to revert to her previous state? If you don’t want it, why do you keep on insisting?” And if he had accepted that he was dependent on the relationship, I would have suggested that he discuss it. I am not a psychologist or a psychoanalyst, nor am I a marriage counselor. I have gathered some experience from life, but I can’t really say that I know how to advise people on matters like these. I perceive his difficulty,